"#ToMyFutureHusband,
I promise to always be crazy about you, no matter what. You're perfect to me, but most of all, you're perfect for me."
This is a little piece of one of my many #ToMyFutureHusband letters.. Warning: for those of you who don't like mushy, sappy blogs, I apologize because I'm positive that that's how this one will be. I can't help it. I just love love y'all. :) So, keep reading to learn more about love.
So, as y'all can tell, I write letters to my future husband. Sometimes they're love letters, sometimes they are almost like journal entries that tell about my life & what I'm going through. This may sound crazy, but writing the letters seriously make me feel better. When I'm feeling sad? Write a letter. When I'm feeling lonely? Write a letter. When I'm feeling happy? Write a letter. Of course I lean on God first, & of course I pray, but this is just something that is almost stress relieving to me. I can't imagine the day that I can actually talk to my future husband instead of just writing letters that he will have in the future, & how amazing that will be.
But, now that I've explained that to y'all, let's continue on. :)
So, I remember when I first began to think about my future husband. I was in the 7th grade, & going to youth group alot. We had a series all about our future spouses. We talked about purity (which led me to get a purity ring as a reminder of the promise I made to myself, God, & my future husband), and we also talked about love. Ever since, I've loved love. I love learning about the bible's definition of love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 talks about this.
"Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails."
-1 Corinthians 13:4-8
This is the bible's definition of love, and the only kind of love that I want. Basically, it tells you all the things that love is. I'm going to break those down and talk about them specifically, here. :)
1. Love suffers long and is kind.
Basically, love is not something short. Love is infinite. Love lasts forever. Love is kind, which means that love does not try to hurt you, but rather heal you.
2. Love does not envy.
True love is not jealous. If you are very successful in something, your spouse should not be jealous, but rather rejoice with you, and keep encouraging you, and vice versa.
3. Love does not parade itself; it is not puffed up.
Love doesn't need to constantly be "ME ME ME!" It's the opposite actually. Love is a WE. Spouses do not need to make everything about themselves, but rather try their best to make their husband or wife happy.
4. Love does not behave rudely, and love does not seek its own.
Love shouldn't be rude, it should be kind. Respect your spouse, make them feel wanted, and give more than you take. Love also does not seek its own. This goes back to number 3. Real love should try their best to make their "better half" happy. :) Don't worry about yourself, think of your husband/wife!
5. Love is not provoked, it does not seek evil.
Love shouldn't provoke you. Your boyfriend or girlfriend right now (or in the future) should protect your purity, not provoke it. If they really want what's best for you, they will respect your boundaries and think of what is best for your future. There's something I heard one day that really spoke volumes on that subject. My previous youth pastor, speaking to a group of teenagers with raging hormones, said "That girl you're holding hands with? Are you planning on marrying her? That guy you kissed goodbye? Are you planning on marrying him? Well, you're putting your hands on someone else's spouse. Treat your boyfriend or girlfriend like you want your future spouse to be treated." That spoke volumes to me. Obviously, this doesn't mean that you need to become a nun, (unless you want to of course) but it does mean that you need to think. Also, love does not seek evil. If your love isn't seeking God, it's probably seeking evil.
6.Love does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth.
Love does NOT hide in darkness. Love does not promote lying, cheating, or stealing. True love promotes Goodness, and all of the things that are good and pure. Love rejoices when the truth prevails. Hopefully you and your spouse will celebrate when something is done out of truth. :)
7. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.
Love is not selective. Love does not say "well I like this about you, but not that. Change it." No, love bears ALL things. Your spouse should encourage you, push you, and believe in your dreams. Hence, Love believes all things. Where there is love, there is hope. Hope for your life together, hope for today, and hope for the future. Love hopes all things. Love endures all things. When you say your vows, you say "Through sickness and in health, for better or for worse.." and all that jazz. That's exactly what enduring all things mean. Enduring life, together.
And finally, love never fails. Love NEVER fails. Isn't that amazing? True love was founded on the same principles as God's love, although we humans tend to mess it up a lot. But, isn't that awesome? The bible calls for men to love their wives as Christ loves the church. That's a pretty big love.
So, can you imagine me, that little 7th grader who had never even had a boyfriend, dreaming about love? I honestly can't wait to be in love and get married, although I will most definitely wait. I not only want God's perfect timing, but I want God to mold me into the woman I need to be. The more I think about it the more it makes me want to be a better person. I want to be the best wife I possibly can. But, anyways, ever since then, I've been writing letters to my husband. So, that's almost 3 years of letters that I have. Of course I don't write them every day, or on a regular basis per say, but still. Those letters are one gift that I will give to my husband on our wedding day, and I encourage any of y'all to do the same if y'all so desire. :) I also really encourage guys to do this for their future wife! :)
But, when I realized just how important my future spouse really is, I promised myself a few things. I promised to stay pure, I promised to grow into the woman of God that I know I can become (not only for me but also for my future husband), and that I would take dating seriously. I've never been that girl that all the guys liked, but I consider that a blessing, no matter how different that makes me feel sometimes. I have only had one boyfriend, where most girls my age have had at least 10. I have never comprised myself, and I don't plan to. I promised myself that I would wait as long as it takes. And I mean that. Yes, being single does suck a lot of the time, but in the long run, it will allllllll be worth it. When I'm looking in my husband's eyes on our wedding day I will be able to say that I saved my heart for him. My whole heart. And that... That's worth it all.
Now, for all of you reading this thinking "well that's nice and all, but what if there's noone out there for me?" I can promise you there is. God doesn't put someone on this earth and not give them a partner. He created someone specifically for you, and y'all are going to be soooo incredibly happy serving God together! I once heard that God will do anything to have you meet "the one." He will take you across the globe if he has to! My pastor met his wife over seas. They both lived in the US, just in different states, but they didn't meet here. They met over in another country while doing mission work. He encouraged us in the fact that nothing is impossible with God. You will meet the one. You just have to be patient and wait.
Also, girls (and some guys too!), don't compare your love story to anyone else's, whether that be your friend's, your parent's or someone in a movie. Not each love story is the same, and not every person finds love at the same time. Some people meet their spouses when they're 8, and some people meet their spouses when they're 20 or older! God has a plan, just trust it. Don't compare your love story though, because God isn't done with you yet. :)
So, for those of you still reading, I hope you have a blessed night, and that this encouraged you! You are amazing, and God isn't through with you yet!
- Love always, @InfiniteFaith7
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